By FUNMI AKINGBADE
Every day, I receive countless e-mails asking me questions that border on the expansion of the vagina wall, premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. One of my usual prescriptions is that people should engage in more pelvic wall exercise.
The effects of good physical exercise on effective sexual behaviour cannot be discarded. Apart from the fact that good physical exercise produces a healthy and well-shaped body, energy, quickstep, nice posture and a bearing that suggests confidence and enthusiasm, it also promotes good sex.
There is something magnetic and radiant about an individual who moves, walks, sits and stands with natural grace, elegance and poise. Physical exercise increases the flow of oxygen into the body by promoting weight loss. It also helps to reduce body fat, eradicate snoring, decrease the risk of cardiovascular disease and lowers blood pressure.
Moreover, it helps to decrease insulin use in diabetics, prevents osteoporosis, and reduces the risk of age-related diseases and depression.
Physical activity is one of the most important factors that aid good sex. Regular exercise makes you look young and healthy, keeps your body in shape and provides you with the energy and stamina needed to engage in any form of sexual positioning. Physical exercise does not only prolong sex, it also improves the quality of one’s life. With regular exercise, one will notice a difference in one’s breathing, stamina and balance.
Regular physical activity fortifies the immune system and helps to avoid or recover more quickly from cold and other minor maladies. It can also help to prevent or reverse many chronic conditions associated with ageing. An inactive couple loses muscle tone and strength; their bones lose density and become prone to fracture. This explains why such couples cannot practice certain desired positions for fear of damage to their muscles and bones.
Such couples are usually overweight, and this excessive weight definitely adds stress to both the heart and the skeletal support structure. But with good exercise, fats are burnt, muscles are built, bone strength is restored as the muscles and bones take up their supportive positions; even the strain on the cardiovascular muscles and the skeleton decreases automatically. The efficiency of the heart and lungs increases if you add some flexible exercises to your daily routine.
Invariably, it has the tendency to add freshness to your sex life. This is based on the fact that the mobility of your joints will become improved and you will be relieved of back and joint pains. So during leisure time, indulge in physical activity. Inactivity has several negative health consequences.
Do you know that walking briskly for 30 minutes each day and walking at a brisk pace for three or more hours a week can reduce the risk of coronary heart diseases by 60%, delay the ageing process, control the weight, help you feel happier, less anxious and enable you to sleep better? Since our bodies are designed to respond to physically demanding situations, physical exercise puts fitness and much-needed leanness back into your life.
The only way to prove this right is to try it consistently for a month. You will definitely notice the great difference. In case you are just seeing the need for regular exercise, start slowly and increase the exercises as time progresses. To plan a good exercise, you must make sure you draw a balance between too much and too little exercise. Stretch your body, walk briskly or run slowly. However, make sure that you do not put on high heeled shoes or tights clothes.
Your strengthened muscles support your spine better and help you to rotate easily while making love. A combination of healthy bones and muscles help you to keep your balance with more agility and grace and maintain a healthy and youthful appearance, which makes you feel good about yourself. When you feel good inside, it radiates outside. And since regular exercises make you feel good, you will be undeniably better off sexually.
The energy you gain as you increase your strength and flexibility will definitely spill over into other areas of your life, allow you to passionately give yourself to your spouse unhindered and also pursue your favourite life activities. And as you work towards bringing freshness to your matrimonial bed and making your spouse happier and pleasing, you will find your self-esteem and confidence growing. Your marriage will be healthier and you will have a better mindset.
The part of the body that mostly repulses couples (the wife in particular) is the protruding tummy and the pendulous breast that makes the woman look shapeless, repulsive, unfeminine and un-sexy. This is so because the abdominal, pelvic, and virginal muscles have been stretched from pregnancy to birth. All that is needed is to adjust your posture through exercise.
Pelvic workout or kegel exercise is one of the magic exercises that helps prevent some of these sexual challenges. Kegel exercises are designed specifically to strengthen a woman’s pelvic musculature. Basically, this involves contracting the pelvic sling of muscles as you would to stop urination. It is locating, exercising and controlling the muscles which control the vagina and the bladder of the woman popularly called the pubococcygeus muscle or the [P.C. cord]. It is an important and major muscle that helps couples to enjoy sex better
Procedure: It can be easily practiced while passing urine because it is the same muscle that controls the urethra (i.e. the urine pipe) that controls the vagina wall. While urinating in the WC toilet, spread your knees far apart and imaginarily divide the urine into three parts and then stop the flow of the first part urine for a couple of seconds and try counting 1-10 or 1-20 or 1-30 or 1-40. After that, start urinating again and stop; then urinate again and stop.
Repetition of this stopping and starting and counting until the bladder is empty helps you exercise the muscle and helps you to differentiate the ‘P.C. cord’ from the muscles of the thigh, abdomen and diaphragm. Each time you practice this, you are practicing Kegel exercise. You can increase the count as time goes on to 1-50, 1-60 as you get accustomed to the muscle.
If you miss the procedure, you will not get the desired result. Remember that at the initial stage, your knees must be far apart. If not, you might be making use of your abdominal muscles. But with frequent practice, you will be able to practice Kegel exercise while standing up or bending or busy doing any other thing.
It is advisable to practice Kegel exercise at least 40 times a day. Make it a habit; it will become a lifestyle. This exercise handles common complaints some husbands give concerning looseness of the vagina wall of their wives due to multiple childbirths. The good news about kegel exercise is that it is also good for men to help prevent premature ejaculation, primarily erectile dysfunction and also urinary incontinence.